Taking a Look Back

From 18-22 I spent my time in three relationships.

The first one was with a 23 year old guy who worked with me at a restaurant. He was funny, smart, and good looking. I had just moved out of my house for the first time and was on the high of being independent and taking care of myself. The last thing I needed was to be in a relationship, but I ignored what everyone told me and became serious with him. I was definitely settling because for the first few months since he was so broke all the time we didn't ever go out on dates or anything of that nature. We ended up living together for awhile until he gambled our rent money one month. I finally packed my things and moved back home, but I was already talking with this other guy...who lived in California.

I had been broken up with the first guy for a month or so when I decided to move back to California (I was born and raised an hour north of Los Angeles). I told people that it wasn't for this other guy, but he definitely played a part in it. He was again sweet, caring, and good looking, but he didn't have a job and participated in extracurricular activities that I did not care for at all. His aspirations included working in Hollywood in the film industry, but he was not doing too much to get there except rack up over $100,000 dollars in school loans. Again, I lived with him for awhile when things went bad with my father until the time finally came that I knew I needed to move back home to Kentucky.

I returned to Kentucky and then three months later I met boyfriend #3. He was a doozie let me tell you. Not only was he my best friend's ex-boyfriend (they only dated three months, she cheated on him, and she dumped him- so I did not feel all that bad dating him to begin with), he was an avid smoker, which I told myself I would never date, he had a crappy work ethic, and all he ever wanted to do was sit around or go to the bars. He was fun, but other than that I have no idea what I saw in him, but I stayed with him for 10 months.

Finally, it was time for me. I was tired of committing myself to men that were completely not right for me and not living up the best years of my young life.

I needed time to figure myself out and who I was and where I wanted to go with my life. When one knows themselves the best it becomes easier to see who will or will not blend well with your life. Once you understand yourself you feel as though you owe yourself the best and are less likely to settle. These are things that you cannot be told which makes it hard and annoying most of the time.

This reminds me- I heard the other day that in Germany you are not allowed to get married until you are 26. We should have a law like that in hopes that people will take the time to get to know themselves before they go out and try to learn about other people. What do you think??

Welcome!

I have never been a blogger before, but when I was told I had to for a Writing for the Web class I saw endless possibilities. I am an English major at my college and love to journal for myself, but I never thought about taking my thoughts to the internet. But here I am, and I have never been more pumped about speaking my mind to potentially the entire world.

Let me lay down a basic foundation to who I am and where I am going to be going with this blog. I am 22 years old and reside in Southern Indiana. I started out my existence in this world in the sunny Southern California, but I was brought to the Bible belt in 2001 when my parents went through a nasty divorce. From 15 onward I have called the Bluegrass State my home and would never want it any other way. So there ya go- me in a nuthshell.

Well now I am 22 years old, living on my own, all my family scattered about the country, and for the past year and three months I have been SINGLE.

Independnce

Strength
Freedom
Friendships
Flings
Carelessness
Excitement
Personal strength
Academic excellence
Job opportunities

The list can continue of the things I have learned and that represent the transformation in my world. With all the wonderful things I have learned about myself during my time of singlehood, I have also learned a lot about the opposite sex and the art of dating. I am dedicating this blog to my experiences with dating, men I have met and continue meet, all the oh so exciting and not so exciting dates I go, my guy wisdon I have acquired, all the fun things I get to do since I am single, and how it is like being single in this new, every changing world.

I can't wait to get started because I already have a list of things I want to share....here we go :)

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vU4uEWyRt_U