Thank you for the reminder

Through my dating life I have been struck by ephiphanies that have altered the way I view men and the dating scene. They have just been recently added to the way I do things so there has not been enough time to reflect upon if they make a positive or negative change in the way I operate.

One that I find most helpful is safe guarding myself when it comes to dating is that I am to always expect men to do the worst. Or another way I like to put it is that all men are guilty until proven innocent.

I have received mixed reactions from people when I say this to them. Some people have agreed with me and other think that I am not giving men the benefit of the doubt or that it is not fair to place that kind of judgement on a person before they do anything. I feel though it is completely justified since the track record of the men I have encountered or that I have vicariously encountered through my friends telling me about their men issues shows that in given situations men are more likely to disappoint then to please.

I do sympathesize with the genuinely good men out there. They have to exert extra strength into showing women that they are not like the others then men 30 years ago had to. All I can say to them is that they need to just deal with it honestly...because women do want you, but they want to make sure that you are real.

Anyway, so this is something that I go by in my dating life so that when things do happen I am not caught off guard, surprised, or waste any of my time being upset or questioning what happened or what I did wrong.

Here is the recent event that helped spawn this post:

A guy messaged me on Facebook who knew a lot of my friends. We began talking through the online chat that Facebook has for about a week to two weeks. We eventually planned out a night to meet for dinner. This unfortunately was a night that the recent snow came down and with all the ice we postponed it for the falling week. The following week approached and the events were not so surprising to me. The following is an almost verbatim retelling of the text messages sent and received to this man:

3:00ish
Guy: Hey I am not feeling so hot today do you mind if I come over a little after six to pick you up?
Me: That is completely fine with me.

5:15ish
Me: Hey, when you say a little after 6 what time are you thinking?
Guy: Well I just woke up and have a migraine and just not feeling good all around. Would you be terribly mad if we rescheduled again?

(Thinking to myself: What the crap is this guy doing??? I showed a friend and he said that because the first time was because of weather I should cut some slack. Good idea.)

Me: That is fine with me.
A few minutes pass...
Guy: Actually maybe I just need some drinks....

(At this time I am thinking he is cancelling dinner but now wanting to go out and get drinks...I am also starving at this point in the day.)

Me: Well I have other things to do tonight such as homework so I do not think drinking is a good idea so let's just stick with rescheduling.
Guy: K

(What does "K" even mean?!?!)

Guy: Do you want me to come over so I can be your study buddy?

(You have got to be joking me!)

Me: So let me get this straight...you don't want to go to dinner, but you want to get drinks, and then come over and be my study buddy....negative.
Guy: Cool down I was going to get drinks with dinner..women.

(Oh are you serious?)
Me: I am so confused...are you sick? or not?? are you hungry?? or not??
Guy: Why don't we just forget about it.
Me: Whatever


I never found out what happened...whether he was sick or not or what....I have yet to talk to this guy since that night...don't plan on it either...this also opens a whole new topic of text messaging and its role in the way people communicate in today's society....until next time.